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7 MUST SEE dating tips for single mums

Dating is not easy and for many single mum’s out there it can be an absolute nightmare. The dating world is has certain rules and if all you single mum’s out there follow these, you just might meet your perfect man.

Here are 7 essential tips for how to successfully date as a single mum:

Make sure you use your lunch hour for first dates. If you think about it, it’s so much easier and stress free, if you can get that hour or so off from the boss. If you’re a business owner it’s obviously a lot easier. You will feel so much more relaxed and open to some first date fun as the kids are in school and you have the added bonus of looking fabulous already as your dressed up fro the working day. Also, and this is really important to note that you only have 1 hour so if the date is not going well you have the perfect excuse to leave. Alternatively, if you have bonded and there is chemistry then you are going to leave on a high note and you can set yourself up for a second hot date.

Never mention the hardships of being a single mum or single woman. It won’t be easy that’s for sure but what ever you do, do not go on and on about being alone and single with kids. This is a turn off and may put your date off. Everyone has problems and day to day issues so avoid that topic. All you have to know is that being a single mum in Sydney or Melbourne takes a certain amount of courage and strength and that is you! Keep this is mind.

Try to be yourself and act natural. This is not as easy as it looks as you want to make a good first impression. But, he has to like you for you and if he doesn’t well it’s better that it’s sorted out early rather than later. Having said that, do not be too relaxed and let your guard down and put all your cards on the table. Maintain a certain level of mystery to keep him guessing and wanting more. He will like you a lot more if you are your true self and not just playing ‘nice girl’ to make an impression.

Don’t give your ex husband a bad rap – never bad mouth them. A hard thing to do especially if you have got a willing and eager listener at the other side of the table. If you start rubbishing him, you will start to look angry and bitter, which are bad qualities you do not want to show in a first or even second date. If he asks about your ex, keep it light and fluffy. If you need to vent talk to a friend or a family member.

Don’t drink too much alcohol. Excessive drinking is definitely not a good idea. Tempting I know, to relieve the nerves, but if your too relaxed you not only look messy but you can make some seriously bad decisions. You know what I mean by this. You will end up telling him you life story (good and bad) and you may even end up sleeping with him. Have a one drink policy and that’s it!

Don’t go on about your kids. Yes you love them and yes they are your life but leave them at home for this 1 hour first date. It will bore the pants of him especially if he doesn’t have any kids. Talk about them briefly but leave it at that. Talking about your kids to much labels you as a mum and not a women. He’s looking for a women so play the part to being with until your more comfortable with each other.

Set the your goals for the date. Make sure the goal is all about having some fun. Remember you have paid to be here so try to enjoy yourself. Smile, have fun, be in the moment and don’t take it too seriously. There is always the next date.

First Date Nerves- what to do?

If you are going on your first date and are feeling nervous you are not alone. This is really common and probably the best advice the team here at Executive Match can give you is do not panic. I know it’s hard and you are probably dreading it but remember the person you are meeting is going to be a bit nervous as well. So following are some tips and tricks to help you relax before your big first date.

#1: Try to deep breath. Relax and try to visualise something calm. Get your head space into a place where you feel comfortable. Try to visualise this while slowly breathing in and out. Do this for a couple of minutes before you meet. You will be amazed by what a simple breathing exercise can do for your state of mind and nerves.

# 2: Basically, don’t over think it. Just treat it as having a bit of fun and do not take it too seriously. This is not life or death. You are just meeting a person, who like you has joined a matchmaking agency and is looking for the same thing. You are both on the same page so take control and have some fun.

# 3: Avoid lot’s of caffeine before you meet. This could make you jittery and over anxious. Try drinking some tea instead.

# 4: If your freaking out and don’t think you can go through with it ( perhaps this is your first date or first time doing something like this), try going to the gym beforehand for a work out. This will relieve some of the tension and put you in a more calm state.

# 5: Sleep well the night before. Try not to have a big night so you arrive at the date hung over. This is not a good look and you will probably not be looking your best.

# 6: I know this is a bit ‘stalker’ like but if you have their number do a bit of a Google search to find out a bit about them. Check out their LinkedIn profile and see where they have worked. If you feel that you are going to be stuck for conversation tell them directly that you looked them up on social media and perhaps talk about their past jobs. They will appreciate your honesty and perhaps find you a bit more interesting that you have gone to all the effort to find out more about them.

# 7: Wear deodorant! If your nervous you are going to sweat. Make sure your under arms are fully sprayed with a deodorant. You do not want to start smelling bad – this will only make matters worse as you start to worry about your body odour as well. Wear some perfume or aftershave as well.

# 8: If none of this is working and you are a complete mess before meeting the potential future love of your life then there is one last thing that you can do; drink. Yes, not recommended to get totally sloshed on your first date, but a glass of wine or a beer will do wonders in calming those first date jitters. There’s nothing wrong with this and most people expect you to be nervous so go on and order a drink. What ever you do, never over do it and hit it hard. Not ideal for making appositive first impression.

So follow these helpful tips to calm you down before the date. Remember, you are here to have fun so treat it that way.

10 Things You “CANNOT” Do On a First Date

A first date can be one of the most intimidating things we face as human beings, a mad mixture of formidable apprehension, overwhelming excitement, and butterflies on the loose in your stomach, mild headaches, and breathlessness, to mild nausea and back again. Whatever your physical response and mental state, a first date can be nerve-wracking to say the very least. Things that we normally do on a daily basis suddenly become near impossible such as choosing what to wear, thinking of something witty to say, or just being your normal humorous and easy going self.
Make sure you focus on be as normal as possible, following your normal routine as if you were getting ready to go to work, have a shower get dressed and be on time. Do a little research on the venue if it’s a restaurant, dress accordingly and put some careful thought into what you order from the menu and no matter what, remember everything from conversation to consumption should be in moderation. Here’s a list in order of the most important things “NOT TO DO” on your first date. Follow these dating rules and your on a winner on your first date.

1. DON’T BE LATE
It doesn’t matter how good your excuse is, there is simply no excuse for being late, especially on your first date and if you’re lucky enough get a second date you will never be able to live that first date mistake down. Moreover, this is a display of not caring, and sends a message that your time is more important than your date’s time, leave home or work early, and allow some extra time to make sure your punctual.

2. DON’T FORGET TO SHOWER
Some people can get into such a tizz that they forget to bathe and attend to their normal grooming regime. The five senses play an important role here and if you come across as being in anyway smelly or emitting unpleasant body odours then the chance of a second date are probably pretty slim.

3. DON’T GET DRUNK
You might be a tad nervous but don’t use that as an excuse to write yourself off in an attempt to get the better of your nerves. No one likes to hear you slurring your words, burping and apologising for your actions because you were a little nervous. Remember first impressions count so try and keep things tidy.

4. DON’T BRING A FRIEND
This is possibly one of the worst things you could do, it tells your date that you are completely incompetent, have no confidence whatsoever and can’t make your own decisions or assessments; you are governed by your friends. It will undoubtedly make your date that is probably equally as nervous, feel very uncomfortable.

5. DON’T CHECK YOUR PHONE
This is your first date and if there was ever a time to display undivided attention to anyone or anything, it’s right now. In fact in this circumstance its best to turn your phone off and leave it in your bag or car or even at home. They should pick up on this given the overuse of these maddening devices and you may just get a few extra brownie points.

6. DON’T DISCUSS PAST RELATIONSHIPS
This is a huge no-no and will scare the pants off your date, they are probably trying to forget about their last partner and that’s why they’re on a date with you, to help them forget. And if you start talking about your past relationships it might mean to them that you’re still in love with one or more of your past partners.

7. DON’T TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE
It’s your first date, don’t be like a bull at a gate. You need to get to learn about each other and not come across as some desperate weirdo who thinks he’s Errol Flynn on a self confessed love escapade. Leave the marriage and baby talk discussions for a much later date.

8. DON’T TALK ABOUT SEX
You may think your god’s gift to women or the next Joan Collins of your generation but bringing up the topic of sex is a big mistake, generally. This subject is best left alone as it can be a sensitive subject for some, anyway there will be plenty of time for a roll in the hay down the track.

9. DON’T REVEAL PERSONAL FAMILY INFORMATION
This date all about you and your better getting to know each other, not about your mothers amazing fruit cake or the gold medal your dad won at the 1968 winter Olympics. Should this first date explode into a full blown love affair then by all means disclose more about your family and its history.

10. DON’T ORDER THE WRONG FOOD
You have already spent enough time preparing yourself to make a good impression, maybe you have a perfectly pressed white shirt or blouse on, so the last thing you want to do is splatter and spray it with bolognaise sauce or honey infused chicken wing dipping sauce. And if you’re not a master with chopsticks then maybe request a fork.

How to Impress on a First Date

So you have decided to stop wasting your valuable time and engage the services of a professional Matchmaking Agency. Hopefully you have done a little bit of research on the agency and or been referred by friends or family. A reputable and professional agency should have given you some coaching to bring your image up to scratch, giving you the added confidence for an enjoyable and successful first encounter. Beyond all that, here are a few simple tips that you should try to impress into your image while playing the dating game. These tips can be used in both the interview process with dating agency when they need to find out more information about you, to make sure they pair you with the most suitable candidates and also when you’re out on that nerve racking first date!!

First of all it’s paramount that you make yourself likeable. As human beings we seek the accolades, adoration and praises of our friends, families and peers, in general we like to be liked. Just as is commonly the case in business, we as employees, managers or maybe company directors, much prefer to engage in business with people that we like and trust. Likability comes through knowing someone, spending time with them and building mutual confidence and trust.

In a dating scenario we can often make a judgment as to whether we like someone or not within just a few short minutes. Try to show empathy to your date and make them know you are just like them in some ways, maybe referring to the difficulty of the whole dating process. Here you are taking sides with your date in a battle against what is a mutual enemy, pay particular attention to what he or she dislikes, it may be a topic referring to the environment or preferred political party or maybe just their favorite color, try to align your image to theirs based on their character traits.
Try to be pleasant and agreeable on topics they raise or any points of matter, show compassion and real interest, by doing this you will be displaying qualities that make you more likeable.

It’s also a plus if you can be a little unique when it comes to formatting your dating profile with your chosen dating agency. Make sure you provide a nice but more importantly current photo, don’t provide an older profile photo, maybe when you were a few pounds lighter, after all this will dissolve any trust which is what you are trying to build. And when it comes to telling your story don’t divulge every little detail as though you’re writing your own auto-biography, share enough of your own personal details but keep something for the date night. For instance you maybe you will not disclose some or all of your hobbies or maybe a community based charity that you are involved in, displaying a caring and generous side to your character that they were completely unaware of. Maybe you speak more than one language and you can tell your date they look beautiful or handsome in a second language, sure to be an interesting point to elaborate on and create an interesting conversation.

If you get stuck for conversation, relax take a breath and think about the things that are close to your heart, the things you most love doing and that have moldered you into the person you are today. These topics will be easier for you to talk about, as it comes from the heart and your date should pick up on this, showing to them you are transparent and real. Referring back to child memories and adventures of misfortune or mischief are often funny and real, we were all young once after all, this will bring out the human side you.

Whatever you do don’t confess your deepest, darkest secrets on your first or for that matter, even fifth date. It’s ok to reveal something private that only you and maybe a few close to you know about you. This should help to add a little spice to things and make your date more curious about you, but in a good way. And it won’t hurt to say things that others may not have the gusto to do, without going overboard, this will help you to stand out from the crowd, making you the date that was unique and different, ultimately this will make you memorable to the person whose heart you are trying to capture

The Advantages of using a Matchmaking Agency

In today’s fast paced world our lives are often consumed with the overwhelming need to focus on our careers. The corporate world has become extremely competitive where employees find themselves working extremely long hours to satisfy their career goals and their manager’s demands for results. Travel times to and from the office have increased and employees leisure time diminished, the stress of meeting mortgage, car and rental payments takes precedence over the opportunity for social and romantic interaction between those with a full time career and more often than not the idea of a romantic interlude ends up taking the back seat.

There is a whole confusing world of dating websites and applications including social media that can be used as a tool to meet your perfect date or potential future partner. Trying to find the right person to settle down with can be a little stressful to say the least and take up an immense amount of your precious relaxation time. There is an array of potential nightmare problems associated with using some of these platforms. Firstly you never know if the persons profile picture is actually the person you’re in deep discussion with, revealing all of your personal information and potentially putting yourself in harm’s way. You can waste hours upon hours messaging backwards and forwards and then realizing you may have nothing in common or you realize this person just weird’s you out!

So wouldn’t it be worth employing the services of a Professional Matchmaking Company, it certainly has its merits. There are loads of advantages in doing this; firstly you will save lots of precious time, a commodity you don’t have much of. Second your likelihood of finding a more suitable partner is far higher. Your personal information will remain secure and you won’t be wasting hours upon hours of your time heading down the wrong road.
A professional matchmaking organization should be easy to find on the internet, maybe just enter “matchmaker” or “executive singles” in your search engine to reveal some of them, it’s good to consider those that have a higher ranking and come up on the top of the list, these will be most reputable and most commonly engaged for their services.

These professional matchmaking companies like us at Executive Match will have an extensive data base of individuals seeking other like minded individuals with honest intentions of finding romance and a potential life partner. These companies success is based on pairing individuals with other individuals based on your likes, dislikes, desires, dreams and expectations of the perfect partner and if you do find your perfect match then they have been successful. And of course friends and family are going to ask “how did you meet” and your more than likely to be truthful in your answer as it was a positive experience with the perfect outcome, just the advertising a professional matchmaking company would love to hear.

And you don’t need to be apprehensive about being honest in revealing your personal information to a stranger you don’t know who may have questionable intentions. The company will always keep your personal data and personal profile information very safe and only disclose this to the candidates recommended to you by the agency. This process in itself delivers you directly only to candidates that are highly suitable, thus the potential strike rate for a successful match is significantly higher and another huge plus is not wasting your precious time. Sure, not every encounter set up by the agency may end in wedding bells but at least you will be much more likely to meet more suitable candidates.
And if your confidence is a little low, which is perfectly normal when all your time is allocated to your career and you’re a little out of practice on the romance side of things, then the agency can help restore that confidence with some one on one coaching. This will help you achieve the image you want and give you back any lost Mojo.

Many dating sites promise amazing results, but few really deliver. As a successful professional, you are a high level performer and you are used to achieving your goals, so why would you settle for anything less when it comes to dating. By engaging in a “Professional Matchmaking Agency” you will be at your very best, to meet the best possible partners and say goodbye to loneliness and hello to happiness!!