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Why am I successful, but still single?

Are you at the peak of your career? Have you got a successful business that you have worked on for years? Are you independent financially and achieved all your goals? Then why are you still single? Why, after achieving all the success in your career and business have you not been able to find true love in your life? Are you thinking what’s wrong with me?

You are always meeting new people through work, events, functions and the occasional blind date the your friends have set up for you. But, while all your mates are getting married and falling in love you seem to be the last man or woman standing. Essentially, you cannot find your ‘plus one’!

The question still remains in your mind, why and I still alone and why am I still single after all these years. I’m a go-getter, I’m successful but why has this part of my life so eluded me? We’ll don’t despair as there are many people in the same boat as you and as work commitments and the pace of life gets faster this list keeps on growing of eligible single men and single women who cannot find a partner.

So, why am I still single?

 Following are some reasons why you may still be single:

Your too fussy: successful people not only set extremely high standards for themselves but they will expect to see these very high standards on the people they meet. You are probably very quick to spot certain characteristics & idiosyncrasies in the person sitting opposite you ( because you have been trained in this in your business life) and can therefore be very quick to judge or dismiss them. If they don’t live up to your high expectations then they are simply gone. Put simply, your far too fussy.

Your too busy: You have that luncheon appointment or business meeting that you simply can’t put off or that trip to Melbourne to meet the new supplier. Whatever it is, your on the go 24/7, thinking about business. This leaves you little time to invest in one important area of your life; your love life. And this is why your still single and this is where our service as a discreet professional matchmaker comes in handy.

All your friends are married or with a partner: You mix in certain circles that are full of couples which limits your exposure to single men or women.

You spend a lot of time on useless dating apps that never produce results. We all know Tinder, Bumble & RSVP but why are you still on them when they have delivered nothing but disappointment over the years.

All of the above make it nearly impossible for you to meet the right person according to one of Australia’s leading matchmakers Robyn, at Executive Match. Over the last decade she has seen the same scenario play over and over again where successful executives fall into the same trap & remain single for years. Robyn’s advice is to put aside the time necessary to find real love. Treat it like it’s a business deal and invest the right amount of time and effort. This will not happen unless your fully committed to the dating process. There will be ups and downs and there will be times when you think it’s all too hard but eventually your efforts will pay dividends. Essentially, you have to give it your best shot and keep on working at it. It’s all part of the relationship journey!

Robyn adds: “remember if you have had a good or at least reasonable date with someone last night (even if there was a wine or two involved) don’t dismiss them as not good enough or up to your standards, upon reflection the next morning. Give it time and try to nurture what could be a fantastic relationship’.

For more tips on getting out of the dating slump for professional contact us here at Executive Match.

TOP 3 Tips to make a fantastic impression on your first date.

If you’re a novice to the dating scene or have been in a relationship and are a bit rusty when it comes to dating, Robyn our head matchmaker has put together her top 3 tips to make that first impression count.

1) What’s the first thing you see?

When you go on that first date what do you notice first? Is it their smile, grooming, the way the talk, present themselves or is it the overall package? I bet you didn’t know that it differs for men and women. Women will look at the man’s smile first off so make sure when you meet them for the first time your happy and smiling. Men as you have probably guessed will look at the women’s appearance or physique. Note that the persons hair or dress style does not really count when meeting for the first time.

First Date Tip:
It’s all about the smile and the appearance. So guys make sure your totally focused on smiling and girls make sure your look your absolute best. This may sound superficial but these are the cold hard facts when it comes to first impressions on a date so take notice of these.

2) What Should You Be Talking About?

What ever you do don’t get into politics or religion, steer well clear of these 2 topics on your first date. Stick to hobbies, travel, interests and a bit about your job or what you do for work. These topics are very common for both men and women. Make sure you let the conversation flow and don’t make it too rehearsed. Relax, go with the flow and don’t stress too much if there are quite pauses. Be confident in your delivery and try to add some humour into the conversation. Remember, this is all about having fun and enjoying meeting new people for the first time. Granted, this may be hard if you have been out of the dating scene for a while but that’s why we are here at Executive Match. We can help you navigate the nerves of those first few dates.

First Date Tip:

If you haven’t got a hobby then it would be a great idea to start one. Also, learn some relaxation techniques so your not loosing it or freaking out on your first date. Deep breath, count to 10 or do a yoga session before you meet!

3) What not to do on a First Date?

For men and women it’s pretty much the same and it’s probably best we put these in point form:

– don’t talk on your mobile pone unless it’s an emergency

– don’t go on and on about yourself, try to maintain interest and ask questions about the other person

– don’t drink too much and if the other party is getting tipsy it’s best you stay the sober one

– don’t talk too much about ex partners or you last break up

– don’t insist to pay. For the first date it’s a good idea to split the bill

First Date Tip:

Leave your mobile phone at home or in the car. The first date is all about the two of you and nothing else should matter for that encounter. For men be a good listener and take in everything she has to say. For the girls make sure you ask him loads of questions without it sounding like it’s an interview. Again, the conversation will flow naturally if there’s a connection & natural chemistry. Connections don’t always happen instantly. It can take time for the conversation to gather momentum, a natural flow so be aware of this and don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be the life of the party in the first 10 minutes of meeting. Slow and steady is the name of the game here.

If your about to take the plunge into the world of dating then have a chat with Robyn at Executive Match. She’s your best wing women and will be able to help you get over those first date nerves.

What to do if there’s just no chemistry on that first date

It happens to all of us. The expectation is there, you have chatted on the phone, you’ve done your make up, got that hair cut or bought that new outfit for the date hoping that this will finally be the one. We have all been there in the online dating world but what the hell do you do when you finally meet one another and there’s absolutely no chemistry.

You have all these thoughts going through your head and al you want to do is escape but you can’t because you have to be polite. Basically, you have to suck it up and stay the full hour and do your very best not to show your disappointment. While your sitting there you wonder what went wrong? He or she sounded so great on the phone and from their photo they looked great. But, alas there’s absolutely zero chemistry. Basically, you don’t really fancy them.

So, the team at Executive Match has compiled a list of 5 things to do on your date to be polite while there is no chemistry.

# 1: Make sure you maintain interested in the conversation and keep on asking the other person questions to show your at least keen on getting to know them a bit better. You don’t want to appear rude by completely shutting down.

# 2: If you have met at a café and are just doing the coffee thing and the other party wants to progress it to a dinner politely refuse saying that you have made alternative arrangements. Last, thing you want to be doing is sending out the wrong message especially if there’s no chemistry.

# 3: Don’t order that extra glass or wine. Leave it there and say you are driving and you can’t have any more. Don’t get tipsy hoping that the alcohol will somehow miraculously create the chemistry you crave.

# 4: If it’s getting unbearable the best thing you can do is to repeatedly look at your watch and say that you have to be somewhere else. They should at this point get the hint.

# 5: If your totally loosing it and can’t bear to see the date to it’s inevitable conclusion then you have to be upfront and tell them that it’s just not working and you want to leave. Honesty at this point is really the best option.

The above scenario is generally what happens when you use dating websites and are dating en masse and it’s purely a numbers game. This happens all the time when people are doing tinder, bumble or rsvp. Things may look great on the surface pre the meeting but once you meet it’s an absolute disaster.

This is why using a dating agency like us at Executive Match is such a great idea. Why? Because we screen everyone we meet so you are meeting someone that is perfectly matched to your lifestyle, age, profession and looks. There are many other matchmakers out there who won’t show you the photo of your prospective date BUT the advantage of using Executive Match is that you not only get to read their profiles but you see the picture as well. We know for a fact that there are many Sydney and Melbourne matchmakers that will only give you the profile without the photo meaning your essentially going on a blind date. This is not on and this is not the way we operate. So if you’ve had enough of those disaster dates and you want to step up and make the decision to do something serious with your love life talk to us today.

Why are so many photos fake on dating websites?

This is a real problem and concern. A common complaint we hear all the time at Executive Match and why so many singles turn to us for help is that the dates they meet look nothing like their photos. We all know the scenario. You have gone on to RSVP or Tinder and done the search. Found someone you like and connected with them.

The only problem is that the photos look nothing like the person sitting in front of them on the first date. They are there right in front of you and you can’t make the connection. There is a similarity, but they seem to have put n about 20 kg and lost a lot of hair. Plus where did all those wrinkles come from? What a disappointment!

This happens all the time and there is a large percentage of people out there who are putting up photos of themselves that are well over 5 years old. This is unfair and not on and wastes peoples time.

So how does a dating agency like ours at Executive Match fit in? Well, firstly we meet everyone before they go one our database so we can accurately see their age. We also will be provided with current photos so they cannot slip in the odd photo when they were years younger. In fact with us, it’s what you see is what you get.

When we send out a profile for you to view, you can rest easy that this photo is current so there’s no chance of ever being disappointed when you first see them. This is the beauty of dealing with a dating agency. You avoid all the deceipt and photo shopped images prior to meeting the person.

Lets say for example you’re a 45 year old man looking to meet a lady in her late thirties or early forties the last thing you want to meet (unless this is your preference) is a load in her early fifties. This is what it’s like in the dating world where all photos and selfies are unregulated. Of course people are going to put up their best photos of themselves which were taken years ago. You want to put your best foot forward and present yourself in the best light and with the aging process this can be an issue.

Our job as a dating agency is to cut through the clutter and match you with people who don’t lie about their age and who have photos that are current.

So, if you want to meet someone who actually looks like their photo get in touch with Robyn at Executive Match.

The Bumble & Tinder Blues

For those of you that have been on the Bumble & Tinder treadmill of going on countless, meaningless & disappointing dates, your not alone. A good number of clients that join Executive Match have been on Bumble and Tinder & they all say the same thing; “the dates were a waste of time’ or ‘they looked nothing like their photo’.

Those of you reading this will know what I mean. You’ve all been there and have all had those unfortunate dates. You know the feeling; you match online, you exchange phone numbers, you What’s App each other and have a few really good conversations before you meet. Expectations are running high, hearts are racing and your really looking forward to that first date. You arrive at the cafe a few minutes early to settle the nerves and wait in eager anticipation for your date.

What happens next is all too common unfortunately. He or she arrives and the first impression is one of fight or flight. Thoughts go through your ming like; how on earth am I going to spend the next hour with this person or they looking absolutely nothing like I was expecting. A real disappointment to say the least. You both no it and there is zero chemistry. You fumble through the date and politely say that you’ll see each other again when you both know that’s a huge lie. The date ends he goes one way and she the other and that’s the art time they will ever meet. Phone number are deleted or blocked and the reality of online dating sinks you into deeper despair.

You think to yourself that you’ll pull yourself together and this is just a numbers game and that you will meet the love of your life. So the cycle continues. That night, your start the mission of meeting the next person, forever hopeful that they are out there some where just waiting for you.

This is the Tinder and Bumble never ending cycle going on one date after another. For some people this is a great way to enhance their social life and meet strangers on a weekly basis in the hope of perhaps ‘hooking up’ or meeting new friends. But for those that are seriously looking for a partner, someone they can connect with, both physically and mentally, these online dating apps are a really hard slog. It’s a lot of work for very little return. You end up going on date after date, meeting people you’d never want to see again, which can have a really negative effect of the way you see dating and the way you perceive people. Psychologically it can be very damaging and you end up becoming very sarcastic and critical of the whole dating process.

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These apps are in many cases designed for game players. People that like to juggle dates, see one, two or even three people at a time without making a real commitment. Tinder & Bumble are basically free so many guys and girls will take full advantage of this by, if you like, speed dating through peopled discarding anyone who isn’t up to their very high standards. Dates can last 20, 30 or even 40 minutes before they are terminated leaving the other party feeling rejected. Self esteem and confidence levels can plummet!

This is where a service like Executive Match is such a blessing for people that are 100% committed to meeting someone. Because they have to pay a fee for this they are more invested in the outcome and will actually make an effort. Plus you are meeting people that are your equal.People that share your same common goals, aspirations and lifestyle. We make sure that we effectively screen everyone before they join so we have only the very best clients on our database.

Sure there will be the odd date that does not live up to your expectations but overall, you are more likely to meet someone you can connect with by using Executive match than wasting countless hours using Tinder or Bumble. Yes, we are a dating agency and you might think that I’m saying this just to promote ourselves but for those of you that have been on the dating cycle I’m sure you will all agree with me.  Best thing to do is give us a call or shoot us an email and we can resolve all your dating dramas and dilemmas by introducing you to a person that has been fully screened and vetted by our expert matchmakers.

Elite Singles, Elite Dating in Sydney & Melbourne

Elite Singles

Are you looking for Elite Singles in Sydney or Melbourne? Are you over the whole dating scene and want to find the right Elite Partner? Well your in luck! Executive Match and our team of Elite Single Matchmakers will help you find your perfect partner.

Executive Match is a professional matchmaking and dating agency that combines our skills and matchmaking ability to bring professionals and Elite Singles together. Our Elite Singles know they are a really good catch and know that they are the very best of the best. But, unfortunately like so many successful Elite Singles they simply don’t have the time to find true love.

They might have tried a few online dating site sin the past without much success and are now ready to commit to the process of finding their Elite Singles match.

So, we provide 100% world class matchmaking services in Sydney & Melbourne that lead to all our men and women clients finding long-term real love. This is not a quick fix throw as many dates as you can at the person in the hope that one will stick. We know how other agencies operate with a scatter gun approach to their matchmaking service. Many Elite Singles and Elite Introduction sites work on the philosophy of a churn and burn approach where matches are facilitated in a ‘cookie cutter’ style approach.

WE’VE FOUND HUSBANDS, WIVES AND LONG-TERM PARTNERS FOR OUR ELITE SINGLES

We are different because we actually put in the time to get to know you, understand your personality and what will be the best Elite Singles fit for your requirements. There are so many horror stories & reviews going around about dating agencies not doing as they say or not providing quality matches.

You will find that with Executive Match we screen all our clients individually based on a strict set of criteria. If they match it we take them on and if they don’t then they can’t make our Elite Singles list. We then analyse each person personality, age, income and match like for like.

This is why our Elite Singles are the very best in Sydney and Melbourne. So give our head matchmaker Liz a call or shoot her an email and we will get back to you that same day. Just imagine how good it will feel that you’ve made the first step towards finding a partner and that your in the capable hands of someone that truly cares. This  is why we are the right dating agency in Sydney and Melbourne.

What other Elite Single Agencies do

  • Treat you like a number and match you with anyone
  • Spend little or no time understanding  what you want
  • Poor contact and lack of post date feedback
  • Over charge and under deliver and be completely inflexible with the number of dates you get
  • Promise you that they have found the perfect person yet when you meet them you are really disappointed

What Executive Match will do for you

  • Meet you and get to know exactly what your looking for and work hard to find the right Elite Single
  • Be proactive in our communication with you
  • Be flexible with the number of dates you receive
  • You deal with the owner of the company and not an account manager
  • Listen carefully to your post date feedback and strive to find you the best partner possible on your next date based on what you have told us

 

 

Why Tinder is such a waste of time.

For those of you who are swiping left and right with Tinder and finding that the only thing your getting out of this is a sore finger then you are like countless other people who are wasting all this time and effort on Tinder. Basically, it’s a huge waste of time and the chances of you finding any real love or a partner out there on this app is really slim. So if you are a single man in Sydney or Melbourne or a single women in Sydney or Melbourne then it’s time you actually did something constructive about finding a partner online That is, you should be using the services of a professional dating agency who will be able to help you find real and true love without the false and demoralising Tinder fad.

Yes, that’s all it is! It’s a fad and nothing else. Sure, it’s fun to scroll through the hundreds of pictures and people but have you ever just stopped for one second and actually thought about what your doing. Behind all those photos that your discarding (based purely on the physical appearance of someone) could lie a beautiful person. This is the downside and the purely baseless core of Tinder and we at Executive Match can clearly understand why this has been such a failure in helping people match.

We are not saying for one minute that Tinder will not appeal and will not be the perfect solution for some like minded people ( for those in their late teens and early twenties), but if you’re a time poor executive who has the means and resources to put into finding a life long partner then the answer is clearly using a matchmaker in Sydney or a matchmaker in Melbourne. Then and only then will you find love and a real partner. Hoping to get this through an app that is demeaning to both men and women alike is a pipe dream. It’s just not going to happen and the chances of a match are nearly zero.

Wouldn’t it be better to focus your energies and attention to things that will bring in real happiness. Obviously, Tinder has the reputation as a hook up site and this is world wide. But this is a fallacy and completely untrue. Most younger guys on here are looking for a one night stand yet the women are looking for a relationship. So how on earth is this going to work. The guys deny that they use the site purely for sex but the reality is they are! Just ask most women who are on Tinder some of the experiences they have had and they will agree to this fact; it’s a hook up site for men and the women (except a very small percentage) want to find a real man who is serious about a relationship. It just doesn’t work. Our advice is to not waste your time and let so many good people slip away. Be proactive about your love life and get the hell off Tinder!

10 things singles hate about dating in 2018

Put simply, dating can be hard work. There are lots of things that are really worthwhile yet there are others that you simply can’t stand. So following is our list compiled by some of our singles through feedback we get that they really hate about dating. Obviously, we are here to help you get over these hurdles but some things about dating definitely remain a constant.

1) Coming on Too Heavy

Never tell your new partner that you love them on the second date. Don’t ever be too pushy as this is a real turn off. Have some distance and keep them guessing about your feelings, at least for the first couple of weeks. Being too pushy is one of the things most people hate about dating. Also, don’t over SMS or text them too much. Keep some distance and space.

2) Not willing to travel
If your meeting a new person for the first time, be prepared to leave your local area or comfort zone. If your in Sydney and you live in the East be prepared to meet them for a coffee in Manly. If your in Melbourne, same goes. If you are stubborn about this it does set a negative precedent.

3) Be flirty over the phone
A real turn off is when someone does not communicate effectively. Remember if your chatting with them for the first time, try to have a bit of a spark in your voice. You are going to be judged by this and it will set the tone for your first meeting. People hate it when the other person at the end of the phone gives short, sharp answers.

4) Raving on about your ex
Don’t bring up your ex too much. If your still in love with them forget about going on the date. If you hate them don’t bag them too much or put them down in front of the other [person. It just makes you look malicious and nasty. People really hate this type of chatter about the ex. You may say how long your were in the relationship but leave it at that.

5) Being rude to the waiters
Oh, this is such a turn off and it’s going to put your partner off in 2 seconds. Shouting, yelling ort swearing is NOT a good look and only paints a bad picture of you in the future. If the service or food is bad try to make a light joke out of it. Never ever take it too seriously unless they complain in the first instance. Then and only then can you chime in – but keep your temper well under control.

6) Always right
Being on a date is getting to know the other person. Don’t push your opinions too much Try to listen to what the other person is saying and if you feel they are wrong about something you don’t have to be argumentative about it or have a strong opinion. Try to be as neutral as possible on the first couple of dates.

7) Overly sexual
Don’t go on about your fantasies or what you would like to do to her or him on a tropical island. This is not ideal for a first meet and greet. Save it for much later.

8) Being scared of a relationship

Let’s face it, if your on the first date because you have been introduced to someone through Executive Match, then you are most likely looking for a long term relationship. Never say you are not. Most people going on a date are genuine about their commitment and so should you be. If you give the impression that this is a one night stand or a fling then it will not go past the first date.

9) Being late and looking tardy
Two date killers and a real turn off. Being late (without letting them know) and looking as though you have just come from the gym. If your stuck in traffic or the kids have held you up please let the other party know. Being late shows a lack of respect and sets you up for failure. Punctuality is key to a first date.

10) Turn off your mobile phone
Technology is a great thing but for your first date I’m afraid that it has to be turned off. Full concentration must be given to the other person. I know you might want to let someone know your Ok but save that for the toilet break if you really have to use your phone

There are just a few dating tips to help you survive your first meeting. If you can survive your first date and you have both enjoyed yourselves then the future is looking bright and your well on your way to your second date.

GREAT ideas for your first date in Sydney

If your going out on your first date in Sydney and are stuck for a few ideas on where to go and what to do then following are some really good ideas to help break the ice and kick start the romance. We know it’s not easy meeting a complete stranger for the first time so take our advice and try these out.

1. The Bondi to Bronte walk. If your meeting during the day this is a great way to get to know each other and at the same time see some of Sydney’s best coastline. Plus your both doing some fun outdoor exercise which is great. Once you get to the half way point in Bronte stop at one of the many cafes or buy some fish and chips, sit on the park land area and soak up the views. This is a wonderful Sydney experience and perfect if your in the east.

2. Meet at Centennial Park for a coffee and a walk. A famous meeting point is the café off Lang Rd, which is hard to miss. Once you’ve had your fill of caffeine perhaps do a lap of the park. This is another Sydney institution and is perfect for your first date. It’s really chilled out and the atmosphere is laid back.

3. Meet at Balmoral Beach and have a coffee at the Bathers Pavilion, alternatively you could meet at the Bondi icebergs for a lunch or sip on a cocktail as you stare out to the ocean. Either way this is the perfect location for a first date and is really popular among singles we match up.

4. If your in the inner west why not meet up and browse around the markets in Balmain. Have some coffee or a bite to eat first as you both stroll among the stalls.

5. If your going to meet for your first date for dinner, there are some fabulous restaurants in Surry Hills or Darlinghurst. A favourite of ours is Porteno in Surry Hills. Great vibe and relaxed ambiance serving Argentinian style dishes. There are also lots of other restaurants nearby. All you need to do is go to the Good Food Guide and do you research.

6. A walk around ‘The Rocks’ is also a good idea as there are interesting things to see and do which will keep you very busy and engaged during your first date.

7. While your in the city, if you feel like a bite to eat or some drinks why not head off to the famous Ivy Bar in George St. If that’s too busy and hectic then try The Establishment for some sushi. There are so many things to see and do in the city. All you need to do is find a place to meet and start walking around. We suggest starting at a café in the QVB and taking it from there. If the date is progressing well then perhaps go for dinner. It’s entirely how you feel and what type of vibe your getting from the first meeting. If it’s going well keep the dating momentum ticking along and see where it ends up.

Most of the elite singles we match up are probably very au fait with Sydney but they might not have dated in a long time. The trick here is to suggest that you do something you enjoy in the first instance. If your happy, relaxed and having a good time then your date will also be more comfortable and open to seeing you gain based on the fabulous time they had on the initial meeting.

7 Signs that your first date is going well

Going on your first date for a lot of people; even executives and professionals who are used to high pressured jobs and situation, can be really stressful. You do not know hat t he other person is thinking and if you have been out of the dating scene for a while this can be even harder trying to read the other persons signals. It can be horrible trying to second guess what the other person is thinking about you: do they like me, am I creating the right impression, do they think I’m attractive or handsome? With all these questions are swirling in your head during your first date you might end up having a bad time. If you have gone on the date because it has been set up by an introduction agency for men or women then you really want to make sure you get the most out of it and give yourself the very best chance of making it a success.

So, to make this easier for you following are recognisable signs that your date is going extremely well.

You are finding that the conversation is flowing easily. This means you are getting along. If you find that you are struggling to make conversation this is not a good sign. You will notice this by how quickly the time passes on the date. If you look at your watch and see that an hour has flown by then this is a great sign.

You are maintaining eye contact. This means that you are engaging with each other and again a very good indication that there is a connection. If you find it hard to maintain eye contact then something is a miss here and a sign that things are not going so great.

If you both decide that you would like to perhaps go for dinner after the initial coffee. That’s great as you want to immediately extend the date and turn it into something bigger like dinner.

You find that you have a lot of things in common. You both like the beach, travelling abroad, enjoy yoga or going sailing. Having something in common and finding that you are both into the same things is a great first start and should set some solid foundations for a relationship.

You find it easy being in their company. We have all been through uncomfortable situations and meeting where you get bored or are not on the same page as the other person. If you find it easy and relaxing to be in the other persons company then this is a great first date sign. If you are clearly uncomfortable about the other person don’t try to push it or fight it, go along with your instincts, be polite, have your coffee and explain to them that you don’t think this will work. They are probably feeling the same way and will be relieved that you brought this up.

You get a kiss at the end of the date with a bit of meaning. This is fairly self explanatory and much better than a handshake. Don’t expect a big wet kiss at the end of the date. Be happy that there has been some physical contact. You can always look forward to more on the second meeting. After all anticipating what’s to come is also very exciting.

Lastly, if you both decide to meet again after the date then this is another great sign. Make sure you SMS them later that day saying you had a great time and are looking forward to meeting again. Don’t wait too long to send this. Playing games, especially if your over 30 and are dating for the first time is not a good way to go. People need reassurance so if they receive a lovely SMS from you this will reinforce all the good that has happened on the date and set you ip nicely for the next one.

These are just a few tell tale signs that your dates gone really well. If you would like any other information about this or need some feedback on how your last date with us went please contact one of our professional dating experts for some clarity.